How to Have Multiple Orgasms
Meaning that once you've mastered that first peak, the climb to the next one is absolutely obtainable. But Dr. Some women are perfectly satisfied with just one orgasm," she says. So no need to go chasing dozens of orgasms if you're happy with your sex life as is. O'Reilly explains there's no hard and fast rule for when or how your multiples might occur, "Some women have several orgasms in a row without reverting to the early stages of sexual arousal and others have a series of less intense orgasms culminating in a more powerful climax," she writes.
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But if you're looking for some practical advice on how to harness your innate ability of multiples, look no further. Tune in to your mind-body connection. If you go into a hookup with limited expectations of your orgasm, you'll actually cause your body to limit its pleasure responses. In other words, if you assume you can only come once during intercourse The reason why understanding your frame of mind is so important?
And, as Dr. O'Reilly points out, "Oftentimes orgasm can be impeded by intrusive thoughts," making it all the more important to relax. Kegel muscles — which surround the vaginal canal — are the ones that enable you to withhold urine.
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By now, you know the Kegels drill: Flex the muscles until you feel them tighten. Tighten again. Ta da. If you want to have an orgasm, let alone multiples, oral sex is key. And even if you don't come during foreplay, don't fast-track the fun stuff. Ask him to caress your vagina with his tongue for a minute or so before pulling away for a few seconds.
Then, have him dive right back in. Once you come for the first time, you're probably in the habit of pulling away from your partner because you're so sensitive to their touch.
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And rightly so: "After an orgasm, a lot of nerve pathways have been stimulated, and there's been a tremendous surge in blood flow," says Whipple. But this may not be true for all women. O'Reilly explains in the New Sex Bible that although some women may want to avoid direct clitoral simulation right after an orgasm, "Some women say that if your push through and embrace the seemingly unbearable overstimulation, your pleasure will build back up quickly resulting in a subsequent orgasm.
To see if this sex session is on track for multiple orgasms, here's a rule of thumb: If you fall into a stupefied pleasure coma, you're done. If you resume touching an area that is not hypersensitive, you bring it on. Easy peasy. I'm prone to anxiety, so it takes an effort to clear my mind. Meds calm me down, but I know they can be habit-forming, so I turn to meditation and masturbation when I can instead. Tantric sex and relationship expert Tatiana Dellepiane told me about a technique she calls the Bliss Breath. Repeat as necessary. While masturbating with a different vibrator, the Satisfyer Pro 2 —a toy that moves air around the clitoris rather than vibrating directly on it—I had one orgasm.
This round, rather than porn, I tried simply fantasizing about sex with someone I care about. Once again I continued to use the toy, but this time I combined it with the Bliss Breath technique, releasing any tension with my exhale. It also helps spread this orgasmic energy throughout your body.
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This time, during my second orgasm, the wave was real: I ended up squirting , which is rare for me! And there was no thinking necessary. She told me that she is personally multi-orgasmic and that weed lube—typically coconut oil infused with cannabis—helped her get there. I decided to give some Foria Pleasure Spray a try. Since I was already using my hands to spray it on, I decided to go manual for this round. Typically, I really like using products like Foria in my masturbation routine, since adding cannabis oil to solo sex makes it more of a ritual, and it feels quite glam to have a stoned vagina though THC topicals will only get you high if you ingest them orally.
This time, however, I did not fully climax. I blamed my exhausting day for ruining the mood.
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Plus, I was starting to worry that I had ruined my clitoris with vibrators. Fortunately, Dr.
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Maybe this week I just needed sleep and cuddles. According to Dr. So after I finished work, I decided to put on one of my personal favorite horror movies of all time, The Shining. Also, Jack Nicholson comes after his wife with an axe and shit—not content that makes me want to masturbate.
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When that was failing, I turned off the television and walked up the street to my gym. I did a hard 30 minutes of cardio while listening to music, and the exercise endorphins coupled with the dulcet tones of Rihanna made me feel really good about myself. Still sweaty, I ran back to my apartment, put on some David Bowie to keep the good feelings, washed my hands, and went to town on myself. After I orgasmed, I kept going, just as I learned in week one.
Sure enough, the fabulousness I was feeling about myself resulted in another climax. Exercise FTW. So my mission was an overall success.